How to be Confident: 16 Tips & Hacks to Boost Self-Esteem

Last Updated on – Sep 2, 2019 @ 6:01 am

If you hear a voice within you say, “You cannot paint,” then by all means paint, and that voice will be silenced. – Vincent Van Gogh

I’ve read countless stories of people who overcome seemingly insurmountable challenges—yet amazingly—still find a way to succeed.

Like a hero in a story, they face each new nemesis with vigor and determination, daring boldly to conquer and succeed.

But I noticed something in my readings about these powerful people. A common pattern seems to emerge within each of their stories.

And that pattern is linked to one crucial trait: Confidence.

What is Confidence?

The Latin word, “Fidere”, which means “to trust” is where the word “Confidence” originated.

Self-confidence is trusting in oneself and in your ability to engage the world in an adequate and successful manner.

Let that sink in for a bit. To be self-confident is to be ready to take on life’s challenges and opportunities, and be responsible for the results whether good or bad. Confidence is the mindset we use to tackle “known” situations or circumstances that we encounter.

I say “known” because when we encounter a new or unknown situation and we’re unsure if we can do it, that’s when “Courage” comes in.

For example, if you were tasked by your manager to present the annual report to the board of trustees, your trust in your skills and abilities to do the job well is what you’ll need to succeed.

You know what to do, you just need the right combination of abilities and mindset to perform the task well. That’s self-confidence.

On the other hand, if the task above was given to you the first time—if you have completely zero ideas how to do it—then you’ll need the courage to take on the task first. It’s similar to when jumping off a cliff for the first time. You’ll need courage to do this new and unknown endeavor.

After a few jumps, you’ll gain self-confidence from the initial experience. You’re now in familiar or “known” territory.

To summarize, here’s our definition of self-confidence:

  • Belief in yourself that you can and deserve to succeed
  • You trust yourself to have the mindset and skills to succeed

Why is confidence so important?

Because confidence leads to action, and our actions lead us to success. Without confidence, we’re always hesitating, missing opportunities that would’ve otherwise have been perfect for us. Simply because we’re too scared to fail and lack the trust in ourselves.

Mindset (thoughts and beliefs) + Action (skills and abilities) = Confidence

Anything worth giving a shot in life requires confidence. Big or small, the results will vary greatly if you execute your action with confidence versus without it.

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16 Ways to build and boost self-confidence

1. Don’t mind the external noise

Too often we hesitate on doing something simply because we’re too conscious of what other people might think. It’s that awful “Ano na lang sasabihin ng iba” mentality all too common among us Filipinos.

I remember asking a colleague why she wouldn’t take the Civil Service exam (she wanted to try a government post). Her answer, “Baka di ako pumasa e, ang dyahe naman nun”.

A few years later, she still hasn’t taken it, which meant she still can’t apply for government jobs. I’m pretty sure she can pass, in all honesty. But she didn’t share the same vision. It’s the fear of failing and made-up illusions of people talking about her flunking the exam that prevented her from getting what she wanted.

Real talk: People don’t give a damn about what we do as much as we think we do. Each one is too busy minding their own lives, too busy being conscious about themselves. We should not fall into the same trap. We should be busy cultivating our skills and talents, taking risks, grabbing opportunities, winning and losing—with little care about what others might think.

At the end of the day, it’s up to you to control where your life is headed. If you’re too scared of failing and taking risks because of what other people will say, then you’ve essentially handed over the reins of your life to others, rendering you motionless and stuck along with them.

But don’t take my word for it, take it from one of America’s most influential leaders, Theodore Roosevelt, who wrote this famous piece:

The Man in the Arena

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Fun fact: NBA superstar Lebron James writes the title of this piece on his shoes every game.

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2. You are what you think you are

Whether it’s dressing up nicely, minding your manners, having a positive demeanor in general, etc., it’s important that we give effort into looking like the best version of ourselves. The way you see yourself plays a big role in how others perceive you.

Why do you think people call it “power dressing” when someone wears formal/corporate attire? Because it helps the wearer feel more confident and powerful. It’s one of the tricks you can employ to summon confidence at work.

We feel good when we look good. And feeling good about ourselves is one important element of confidence. Here are some quick tips you can easily implement ASAP:

  • Take pride in your work. How you think and feel about what you do sends a strong message to the people around you.
  • Shed old, limiting beliefs. Have the courage to take the next step towards your goals.
  • Employ the mindset of successful people. Learn how they do it. Read books and articles about them.

3. Be Grateful

Gratitude brings forth numerous scientifically-proven benefits to everyone. It enhances our empathy, reduces aggression, improves psychological and physical health, opens the door to meaningful relationships, and improves our self-esteem.

Rather than express our grief and bitterness over things that you don’t have, why not be thankful for the things you already have?

If you feel bad not getting that promotion, pause for a bit and reflect. Assess the reasons why you didn’t get it, adapt and improve, then try again.

Just think of the thousands of people out there who would kill to get your job. Be grateful for having a healthy mind and body, there are millions of people not blessed with the same. Before you feel envious of your neighbor’s large house, think of the hundreds of people who don’t even have roofs over their heads.

Am I saying it’s wrong to feel bad and want better stuff and experiences? Absolutely not. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to have the finer things in life. Just don’t be bitter if you can’t get them right away.

Do it for the right reasons. Be happy for those who have what you desire, then do your best to achieve the same. Be thankful for each day that you are given, for it’s another chance to prove yourself and enjoy life.

4. Harness the power of positivity

This is not about being overly hopeful and abnormally positive about everything. It’s about having the right attitude and outlook on the things that you do.

A person waking up and telling himself, “Oh man, another day”, in a bored or worried tone will likely be less productive and satisfied at work compared to someone who woke up and said, “Yes, another day! One more chance to prove myself and reach my goals”.

Energy thrives on a positive mindset. That state of “flow” wherein everything “just clicks” will never happen if you’re in a negative, low-energy state.

And this positivity and energy will reflect in your person’s aura. People notice it. And it’s a great confidence booster.

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5. Master your fear

“What’s on the other side of fear? Nothing.” – Jamie Foxx

In the book, “The Magic of Thinking Big”, author David Schwartz shared two steps on how we can conquer our fears:

  • Identify and isolate the thing you’re afraid of.
  • Determine what you need to do to overcome that fear

He suggests that we take action and be decisive, as hesitation only makes fear greater.

If you think about it, fear exists only in our heads. Two people can look at one relatively safe activity (wall climbing, skateboarding, mountain climbing, etc.,) but have completely opposing views about it. One might consider trying it while the other might dismiss the idea simply because his fear got the better of him.

I’m not saying you go be a daredevil and try out stuff that scares you. While that may have its pros, it’s simply not doable for everyone. And that’s fine, really. In the topic of self-confidence, mastering fear is really all about identifying your fear and coming up with ways to manage it.

If you think “being brave”, “determination”, or “willpower” is the answer—think again. Sure, they are useful, but it doesn’t really provide you with specific steps on how to effectively manage your fear. God knows it didn’t help me when a friend shouted, “Kaya mo yan pre!” the first time I tried to park my car at our office when I was a newbie driver.

I shouted back, “Pumunta ka kaya dito, silipin mo kung tatama!”

My point is this: More often than not, we can overcome most of our fears by being logical about it. The key is to identify the actual thing that scares you about something, then ask yourself which steps to take to finish the deed.

6. Get to know yourself

What are your strengths? Your weaknesses, areas for improvement? What are you good at, what do you love doing, what gets you excited?

Because only when we know who we truly are do we actually start our journey towards our life’s fulfillment.

As Aristotle once said, “Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom”.

7. Get rid of Excusitis

“Parang uulan, bukas na nga lang ako magjo-jogging”.

“Di ako nag-volunteer mag-report, konti lang alam ko sa Excel e.”

“Ayoko mag-business, di naman ako business/entrepreneur-person”.

“Di muna ko mag-aapply sa promotion, baka di ko kaya yung position”.

Ever felt regret over something you failed to have or achieve simply because you didn’t give it your 100% effort?

It happens to the best of us. It’s hard to admit it, but none of us are immune to “Excusitis”. It’s a “sickness” that pops up every once in a while, and unfortunately, too often for some. It’s when we look for excuses to not do something, placing the blame to some mundane or external reason.

The most successful people I know and have heard of are the ones who are immune to excusitis. Take, for example, people with a rags-to-riches story. It would’ve been easy (even understandable) for them not to dream big and reach for their dreams simply because they were born into unfortunate circumstances.

But they didn’t let their situation decide how they will live their lives. Instead, they summoned tremendous discipline, hard work, faith, and grit—to overcome their challenges and become the successful people they are now.

8. Turn defeat into victory

Oprah was once fired as a TV reporter because she was, “unfit for TV”. Steve Jobs got kicked out of the company he built. Colonel Sanders endured several hundred “No”s before eventually finding success with Kentucky Fried Chicken.

Did you know that His Airness, Michael Jordan, did not make it into the varsity team when he was a sophomore? And J.K Rowling, author of the Harry Potter books, was living on welfare while she was raising her child (as a single parent) when she was writing the first few chapters of the worldwide bestseller.

These are titans of their own respective fields. But each one had their own struggles and hardships before finding success, they knew defeat was not the end of the road.

It was merely a roadblock towards their goals. And with each roadblock they overcome they became stronger and wiser. Until they finally reached the finish line.

9. Focus on the solution, not on the problem

“What you focus on grows, what you think about expands, and what you dwell upon determines your destiny”, says leadership expert and bestselling author Robin Sharma.

The quote reminds us that we should focus our efforts on solving the problem, not merely thinking about it. Otherwise, we’ll remain stuck in a loop, forever in a bind of what-ifs and what-could’ve-beens. These are the people you know who never seem to live in the present, always mumbling, “If only I did (insert action that they failed to do)”, ”If only I didn’t lose my job”, “It should’ve been me who got that promotion”, and more.

What these people don’t realize is that dwelling on the problem isn’t gonna make it go away. Identifying solutions and taking the necessary steps towards fixing it do.

10. Start small

Every start of the year we make resolutions that almost always never sticks.

Why? Because often, we make grand promises, going all out, our willpower driving us towards completing these big goals. And while there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that, in reality, we’re setting up ourselves for failure.

How exactly, you ask?

Because a goal too big requires a tremendous amount of commitment, discipline, and hard work. And unless we’re up to it, we’re only bound to hit the fence just a little while after starting our grand endeavor.

Say your goal is to climb the country’s tallest mountain. Will you give it a go right away? Of course not, you’ll “practice” on smaller ones and gradually “level-up” until you have the necessary skills and experience to climb the highest peak.

And this applies to many of the ambitions we have on life. Progress is a great motivator. By starting small, we get “small wins” which progresses towards loftier successes. The momentum from these wins will help us get to our biggest goal.   

11. Think Big

Thinking big means not being afraid to go beyond our comfort zone. To be unafraid of hitting your highest potential.

Say you have a side hustle of selling electronic stuff online. After a few months, you realize it’s getting you more income than you imagined. And while the idea of expanding is exciting, it also scares you, because you’re getting into unfamiliar territory, one that requires more effort and commitment.

Same goes for applying for a promotion, switching to a more lucrative job, or dreaming of owning a house.

Will you go for it? Well, if you’ll follow the words of some of the famous personalities we’ve mentioned here… you should.

Ray Croc had a lofty ambition of having the McDonald brothers’ burger joint in every corner of America (and later on, the world). Socorro “Coring” Ramos went through several setbacks in her quest to build National Bookstore. The late Henry Sy Sr. went from a lowly shoe boy to owning the biggest shoe store in the country.

And even if you don’t find success, what’s important is that you had the courage to take on the challenges. They will mold and develop you into a better, wiser version of yourself. So that the next time you give it a go, you’ll have better chances of reaching your goals.

Norman Vincent Peale, best-selling author and one of the pioneers in the study of positive thinking in America once said, “Shoot for the moon. Even if you miss, you’ll land among the stars”.

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12. Smile more

Aside from making you look more confident, smiling triggers the movement of the muscles on our face, the action leading to a release of endorphins, known “feel-good” chemicals in the body that reduces our stress levels and help us feel more positive.

Plus, it makes us more approachable.

13. Speak clearly and deliberately

Knowing how to communicate and present ourselves well is a key trait of confident people.

Think about that one confident person you know, for example. Recall how they talk and communicate their ideas.

How they seem to grab your attention and make you want to listen to every word they say. That’s the magic of knowing how to speak and express ourselves well.

Develop your communication skills, both verbal and written. It’s a useful ability to have both in your personal and professional life.

14. Be genuinely interested in what other people say

Greet people with enthusiasm. Listen to their stories. Empathize. Say their name often. Be sincere and make them feel important.

Why do this? Because people will connect better with you if they see your genuine interest to what they say. They will open up more, respond to you more seriously, and you’ll have better chances of gaining their trust.

And while you might have opposing views, you will gain their respect simply because you showed that you were sincere and willing to listen.

15. Keep a journal

The benefits of keeping a journal or keeping track of your life’s daily goings are numerous.

Aside from making sure you stay within the course of your goals and targets, listing down the things that happened in your day helps you become a more mindful person. It can help you focus on the good things, letting you appreciate all the things that life has to offer.

Writing down your thoughts also aligns with the “Progress Principle”, one that states that making progress in meaningful work is one of life’s best motivators.

16. Do one uncomfortable thing every day

“If it’s uncomfortable, you’re growing”, says serial entrepreneur and CEO of Sumo (an online company) Noah Kagan. He was also employee #30 at Facebook before he found his own company.  

He once challenged his friend, best-selling author, and popular blogger James Altucher, to ask for a 10% discount at a coffee shop.

And while it may sound easy, actually doing it is harder than you might think.

James went ahead with the challenge, which of course was very uncomfortable to do. He was rejected, yes, but for some weird reason, he felt good afterward.

“I had my coffee and didn’t think much about it. But then when I left it sounds like a cliche but I literally felt the sunshine slightly burning my face. It was comforting. The air touching me.”

“Going outside the comfort zone put me in THE ZONE. THE ZONE is much bigger than the comfort zone. I want to live in the ZONE even though it’s scarier.”

The goal is not to succeed, it’s to learn to not be afraid of rejection. To build a strong mental foundation and develop a more rejection-resistant mindset.

Because as we’ve mentioned earlier, fear will stop you from achieving your true potential. The exercise of doing things that scare you or make you anxious is one way of developing your mental muscles, so you can look at fear straight into its eyes and not flinch.

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92 Quotes to Build your Self-Confidence

To give you that extra push towards daring to do better and greater things, here’s our handpicked selection of the best quotes on self-confidence.

1. “Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes.”

– Carl Gustav Jung

2. Don’t you dare, for one more second, surround yourself with people who are not aware of the greatness that you are.

– Jo Blackwell-Preston

3. Noble and great. Courageous and determined. Faithful and fearless. That is who you are and who you have always been. And understanding it can change your life, because this knowledge carries a confidence that cannot be duplicated any other way.

― Sheri L. Dew

4. Each time we face our fear, we gain strength, courage, and confidence in the doing.

– Theodore Roosevelt

5. Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something, and that this thing, at whatever cost, must be attained.

– Marie Curie

6. One important key to success is self-confidence. An important key to self-confidence is preparation.

– Arthur Ashe

7. To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give yourself heaven. Don’t wait until you die. If you wait, you die now. If you love, you live now.

– Alan Cohen

8. Think like a queen. A queen if not afraid to fail. Failure is another stepping stone to greatness.

– Oprah

9. You are the only person on earth who can use your ability.

– Zig Ziglar

10. Have confidence that if you have done a little thing well, you can do a bigger thing well too.

– David Storey

11. Don’t wait until everything is just right. It will never be perfect. There will always be challenges, obstacles and less than perfect conditions. So what. Get started now. With each step you take, you will grow stronger and stronger, more and more skilled, more and more self-confident and more and more successful.

– Mark Victor Hansen

12. With the realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.

– Dalai Lama

13. Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy? This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself. The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth. Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you the richest fulfillment from inside out.

– Alan Cohen

14. To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

15. Don’t live down to expectations. Go out there and do something remarkable.

– Wendy Wasserstein

16. Self-confidence is the memory of success.

– David Storey

17. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

18. We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

– Roderick Thorp

19. Whether you think you can or think you can’t, you are right.

– Henry Ford

20. If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price.

– Author Unknown

21. You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.

– Michael Jordan

22. Confidence is preparation.  Everything else is beyond your control.

– Richard Kline

23. “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”  

– Buddha

24. “Until you value yourself, you won’t value your time. Until you value your time, you will not do anything with it. ”

– M. Scott Peck

25. “A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.”

– Mark Twain

26. “Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life, but define yourself.”

– Harvey Fierstein

27. “There is nothing noble about being superior to some other man. The true nobility is in being superior to your previous self.”

– Hindu Proverb

28. “Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.”

– Lucille Ball

29. “Remember always that you not only have the right to be an individual, you have an obligation to be one.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

30. “If only you could sense how important you are to the lives of those you meet; how important you can be to people you may never even dream of. There is something of yourself that you leave at every meeting with another person.”

– Fred Rogers

31. “Low self-esteem is like driving through life with your hand-break on.”

– Maxwell Maltz

32. “What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

33. “When you recover or discover something that nourishes your soul and brings joy, care enough about yourself to make room for it in your life.”

– Jean Shinoda Bolen

34. “Self-care is never a selfish act—it is simply good stewardship of the only gift I have, the gift I was put on earth to offer to others.”

– Parker Palmer

35. “When you adopt the viewpoint that there is nothing that exists that is not part of you, that there is no one who exists who is not part of you, that any judgment you make is self-judgment, that any criticism you level is self-criticism, you will wisely extend to yourself an unconditional love that will be the light of the world.”

– Harry Palmer

36. “Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?”

– Brigham Young

37. “To establish true self-esteem we must concentrate on our successes and forget about the failures and the negatives in our lives.”

– Denis Waitley

38. “A healthy self-love means we have no compulsion to justify to ourselves or others why we take vacations, why we sleep late, why we buy new shoes, why we spoil ourselves from time to time. We feel comfortable doing things which add quality and beauty to life.”

– Andrew Matthews

39. “Our self-respect tracks our choices. Every time we act in harmony with our authentic self and our heart, we earn our respect. It is that simple. Every choice matters.”

– Dan Coppersmith

40. “People may flatter themselves just as much by thinking that their faults are always present to other people’s minds, as if they believe that the world is always contemplating their individual charms and virtues.”

– Elizabeth Gaskell

41. “Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”

– Stacey Charter

42. “Don’t ask yourself what the world needs, ask yourself what makes you come alive. And then go and do that. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”

– Howard Washington Thurman

43. “Too many people overvalue what they are not and undervalue what they are.”

– Malcolm S. Forbes

44. “Whatever course you decide upon, there is always someone to tell you that you are wrong. There are always difficulties arising which tempt you to believe that your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires courage.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

45. “Never bend your head. Always hold it high. Look the world straight in the face.”

– Helen Keller

46. “You have been criticizing yourself for years, and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.”

– Louise L. Hay     

47. “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance”

– Oscar Wilde

48. “Be faithful to that which exists within yourself.”

– André Gide

49. “Act as if what you do makes a difference. It does.”

– William James

50. “The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. These persons have an appreciation, a sensitivity and an understanding of life that fills them with compassions, gentleness, and a deep loving concern. Beautiful people do not just happen.”

– Elizabeth Kubler-Ross

51. “You’re always with yourself, so you might as well enjoy the company.”

– Diane Von Furstenberg

52. Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.

― Lao Tzu

53. Life is ten percent what you experience and ninety percent how you respond to it.

― Dorothy M. Neddermeyer

54. “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

55. “The better you feel about yourself, the less you feel the need to show off.”

– Robert Hand

56. “I think everybody’s weird. We should all celebrate our individuality and not be embarrassed or ashamed of it.”

– Johnny Depp

57. “It ain’t what they call you, it’s what you answer to.”

– W.C. Fields

58. “There are days I drop words of comfort on myself like falling leaves and remember that it is enough to be taken care of by myself.”

– Brian Andreas

59. “Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do.”

– Benjamin Spock

60. “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”

– Lao-Tzu

61. “People who want the most approval get the least and the people who need approval the least get the most.”

– Wayne Dyer

62. “I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren’t more self-compassionate is that they are afraid they’ll become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong because our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be.”

– Kristen Neff

63. “Your problem is you’re… too busy holding onto your unworthiness.”

– Ram Dass

64. “You are very powerful, provided you know how powerful you are.”

– Yogi Bhajan

65. “The reward for conformity is that everyone likes you but yourself.”

– Rita Mae Brown

66. “People are like stained-glass windows. They sparkle and shine when the sun is out, but when the darkness sets in their true beauty is revealed only if there is light from within.”

– Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

67. “If you aren’t good at loving yourself, you will have a difficult time loving anyone, since you’ll resent the time and energy you give another person that you aren’t even giving to yourself.”

– Barbara De Angelis

68. “Most of the shadows of this life are caused by standing in one’s own sunshine.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

69. “It’s surprising how many persons go through life without ever recognizing that their feelings toward other people are largely determined by their feelings toward themselves, and if you’re not comfortable within yourself, you can’t be comfortable with others.”

– Sidney J. Harris

70. “There came a time when the risk to remain tight in the bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

– Anaïs Nin

71. “It took me a long time not to judge myself through someone else’s eyes.”

– Sally Field

72. “When I loved myself enough, I began leaving whatever wasn’t healthy. This meant people, jobs, my own beliefs, and habits – anything that kept me small.  My judgment called it disloyal. Now I see it as self-loving.”

– Kim McMillen

73. “The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own. No apologies or excuses. No one to lean on, rely on, or blame. The gift is yours – it is an amazing journey – and you alone are responsible for the quality of it. This is the day your life really begins.”

– Bob Moawad

74. “Self-pity gets you nowhere. One must have the adventurous daring to accept oneself as a bundle of possibilities and undertake the most interesting game in the world making the most of one’s best.”

– Harry Emerson Fosdick

75. “It is never too late to be what you might have been.”

– George Eliot

76. What could we accomplish if we knew we could not fail?

– Eleanor Roosevelt

77. Always be yourself and have faith in yourself. Do not go out and look for a successful personality and try to duplicate it.

— Bruce Lee

78. “She lacks confidence, she craves admiration insatiably. She lives on the reflections of herself in the eyes of others. She does not dare to be herself.”

– Anais Nin

79. It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures.

— Oprah Winfrey

80. Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

– Lucille Ball

81. Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.

— Golda Meir

82. No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

– Eleanor Roosevelt

83. Just believe in yourself. Even if you don’t, pretend that you do and, at some point, you will.

– Venus Williams

84. Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

— Peter T. Mcintyre

85. A man cannot be comfortable without his own approval.

— Mark Twain

86. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?

— Marianne Williamson

87. Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will.

– Suzy Kassem

88. To anyone that ever told you you’re no good … They’re no better.

— Hayley Williams

89. Argue for your limitations and, sure enough, they’re yours.

— Richard Bach

90. We have to learn to be our own best friends because we fall too easily into the trap of being our own worst enemies.

— Roderick Thorp

91. If you are insecure, guess what? The rest of the world is, too. Do not overestimate the competition and underestimate yourself. You are better than you think.

— T. Harv Eker

92. Confidence is when you believe in yourself and your abilities, arrogance is when you think you are better than others and act accordingly.

— Stewart Stafford

93. As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live.

— Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

About Amiel Pineda

Amiel Pineda is the Head of Content at Grit PH.

He started freelance writing in 2010 doing product reviews and tech news. In 2018, he became a full-time freelancer, writing in the financial space and creating content for clients in various niches.

Prior to freelancing full-time, he worked 7 years in the financial services industry for a Fortune 500 company.

He also writes on his personal blog, Homebased Pinoy (, where he shares tips and guides as a work-from-home freelancer, along with NFT-game guides.

Education: Technological Institute of the Philippines (Bachelor of Science in Electrical Engineering)
Focus: Freelancing, Entrepreneurship, Financial Products, Investing & Personal Finance

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